Dating for one month
Here are nine things to avoid doing in the first month of dating: 1. Here’s a rule you can steal from “How I Met Your Mother”: “Never make plans with a date further in the future than the amount of time you’ve been going out.” Of course, in non-sitcom land, this rule gets voided once you’re in a serious, committed relationship — otherwise, no one could ever make marriage vows — but in the first month of dating, keep plans for the future at a minimum.
This should be a no-pressure time to get to know one another.
[Read: The 9 relationship stages all couples go through] If you want to experience a perfect relationship with a guy, it’s very important that you play your part well in both these phases.
In the dating phase, you need to make the guy fall for you, and you need to make him fall hard.
You’ll have plenty of time to plan a wedding…if the relationship makes it past the one-month mark. Only introduce your kids to someone you’re serious about. Otherwise, you’re prematurely adding a level of commitment to the relationship. In a long-term relationship, all the dating horror stories of the past will be revealed.
I asked the exact same question of every single bride who hired me to work their wedding as a professional bridesmaid. I set some rules: I would say yes to every guy that asked me out, and I had to ask out guys whenever I felt the urge to meet them in real life.But after a while, their answers started to fall into three main buckets: Quite literally, I was always the bridesmaid but never the bride. “I gamified dating,” she said, sipping her hot chocolate. It only took me a month to meet my fiance.” “You went on four dates a day? When 45 minutes passed, I politely asked for the check, went home and arranged first-date number two for the next night. I was going to commit to going on 14 first dates during the month of February. Keep your date from getting overwhelmed — and guard your own heart — by taking things slow. In the meantime, just keep things at “like” and reassure your date that you’re interested in moving forward. It can come across as too eager — or worse, desperate. Also, no one wants to hear that you’ve been planning a wedding on your own. Meeting up with some friends or a sibling for a drink is one thing, inviting your date to your aunt’s birthday party is another. You don’t want your grandma coming to conclusions about the where the relationship is headed before you do. Don’t overwhelm your date with unnecessary (and bitter) details in the early stages of a relationship.